Do you ever wonder if what is bothering you most is important, or should be talked about? Do you ever think, I shouldn’t even bother with this because it will only make things worse in a relationship? Constantly, I get this feeling towards my boyfriend. I am always upset or bothered by little occurrences that are just assumptions. I hate having to bring them up because I don’t want him to get frustrated and sick of my complaining. I know that nothing would come between us, but then why do I always get these feelings? I could tell my best friends in the whole world how mad I am at him, but that doesn’t change the feeling in my stomach. The only way that feeling goes away is if I tell him. Good now that feeling has escaped and I am not stressed out, but then I just see this disappointed look on his face. I always get the same reaction. The poor guy is always telling me to not make a big deal about the small stuff, but it is so hard because it ruins everything else in my life because I am in a very bad mood.
Through the course of this year I have mainly experienced this. I have learnt that this is a key part to language. One of the hardest things for me to do is to communicate my feelings and that is crucial in being open, and having a good language in the relationship. Also, I have learnt that speaking clearly and using a language that both people of the relationship respect will save one from having these little occurrences of annoyance. The more and more I think about the things that bother me and disappoint me about him, the more I think about how language is an important factor. Tone is a key part in knowing whether he is happy or not, and this has helped me fight through the little annoyances and forget about telling him of them. As I think about language my relationship with my boyfriend improves.
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